Nightmares and Night Frights

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“I believe in everything until it's disproved. So I believe in fairies, the myths, dragons. It all exists, even if it's in your mind. Who's to say that dreams and nightmares aren't as real as the here and now?” John Lennon

Was that in your head? Or did you really see a shadow move across the wall? Was that eyes staring at you from inside the cracked closet door?

It is natural to be afraid of the dark. Our ancestors feared it because death could lurk in the darkness. We fear what we cannot see. Our imagines start to run away with us as our egos try to explain a noise or movement.

Our nightmares, bring messages from our souls and the universe. However, disruptive and frightening they might be.

So what do you do?

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Was there something in your room:

Everything is energy. Some energy is wonderful and some energy not so great. When you wake up in the middle of the night and feel like you are being watched or you think you saw something move, you can be awake for the rest of the night.

  • If feel a presence in your room, say with authority, “I see you and no you may not by the I am that I am.” I am that I am is claiming your divine authority.

  • Turn on the light. Light creates a sense of safety. If you might need to sleep  light on. You can get some holiday lights to illuminate your room. As well as, place a salt lamp in your room. Salt lamps are great for bringing high vibe energy into the room.

  • Burn some sage, palo santo or copal. I keep palo santo next to my bed, just for those nights I feel uneasy. Don’t forget to open a window, so whatever energy has entered your room can leave.

  • Place crystals under your pillow or bed. Create a crystal grid in your room. Use crystals you feel drawn too. Crystals that are protective are Obsidian, tourmaline and onyx. Crystals for dreaming are amethyst, moonstone and fluorite.

  • You can also use aromatherapy and herbs. Place a sprig of rosemary above your door or under your pillow. Diffuse lavender  or use fresh lavender, which is calming herb as well as protective.

  • Place salt under your bed or at your doorway. Black salt is especially protective.

  • What does the energy want? If you want, ask the energy what it wants? Let the energy know that is cannot wake you. Decide if you want this energy to stay or leave.

  • Set boundaries for your space. Set the intention before sleep that, you only give permission what what you would while awake (many of us astral travel and our soul works while we are sleeping). Also, set the intention that do not want to awaken during the night. While you are setting your intentions you can also ask that you awake-refreshed, renewed and healed. Thank your spiritual support team for their help.

  • Ground yourself before bed. Listen to this guided grounding here.

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So what about nightmares?

Nightmares enliven our fears.  Our fears toy with what the conscious minds suppresses and the unconscious mind has yet to unleash.  All the things you fear; your doubts, insecurities and phobias come out to play. Your fears do not only manifest in nightmares but in the context and landscape of your dreams. Often fears show up as unsettled dreams, those dreams that upon waking we feel uneasy.

Fear is primal. It’s a survival mechanism. It’s a life preserver.

In a world of self-help and improvement.  Our fears can be pushed away or highlighted on the path to personal growth.  We want to understand our fears. Get to the root of them, hoping to eradicate them.  However, fear can be a wonderful driving force to propel you forward. To get you to take action.  Without fear, where would you be?

Dreams can be a portal into understand your fears and how they manifest.

Types of fear that penetrate your dreams:

Personal fear: What are you afraid of? This is personal to you.  It is where your insecurities, self-doubts, and phobias engage with you.  If you are deathly afraid of snakes, don’t run to the dream dictionary or google.  The images in your dreams are specific to you, we’ll get to universal meanings in a bit. But before you jump to the easy road.  Take time to sit with the image that has shaken you. Remember you might be deathly afraid of snakes, but I personally love snakes and and dream about snakes would not be a bad dream.  Now a dream about spiders, that’s another story. Take time to look at each dream or nightmare. What was it that you were afraid of? Why? Take time to sit with the emotions, images and memories triggered by the dream.  Don’t censor yourself. We can edit later. Right now, we are getting to the root that you want to eradicate. (download this worksheet to help you uncover the hidden meaning of your fears)

Collective fear: Is universal meaning for the collective conscious. This can be influenced by culture. Fear that is shared culturally and cross culturally.  Things such as war, end of the world, monsters that can eat you and kill you. Now you can do a google search on the meaning of snakes in dreams. See if anything applies to you.  You will be surprised on how much you have already figured out through your personal dream exploration.

Shadow: is the parts of ourselves we do not like, ignore or pretend do not exist so we project onto others in order to avoid. (Want to understand your shadow better, check out my blog post on shadow). Shadow can be a holding place for our fears. Because we can place those parts of us we do not accept outwardly instead of holding them inwardly. Ever had a dream or nightmare where it seemed like you were surrounded by everything you did not like?

Nightmares and bad dreams are calls to wake up.  What is it that you suppress? Ignore? Fight off? What needs your attention? Your fears show up in your dreams and nightmares because your soul wants to get your attention.  It’s calling you to explore its messages. To dive into the content. To release. To heal.

What to do when you wake up from a nightmare or bad dream:

  • First, let’s get you back to sleep, you can dive into the meaning of your nightmare, in the morning over a hot cup of tea or coffee.

  • Take some deep breaths.  Focus on your breath. Counting in 4 counts, hold 4 counts, release 4 counts, hold 4 counts and repeat, until you feel your heartbeat go back to normal.

  • Remind yourself it was just a dream, you are safe at home.

  • Turn on the light and leave it on if you need.  No need to fuel your imagination with the dark.

  • Read, watch a video (nothing scary), do something to change the focus of your mind. Laugh, laughter is great for breaking up energy and refocusing our minds.

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Wither it’s a nightmare or something that wakes you, you have to tools to protect yourself, claim your space and keep you and your home high vibing.